The exponential growth of I/me confusion is driving me nuts.
You hear it everywhere: “She gave it to he and I.” “Thanks for helping my son and I.” In conversations casual and formal, in real life and on TV, the cringe-inducing (to me) error has become so ubiquitous that to point it out to anyone would be churlish.
And yet here I am, doing so. Because it’s such a simple error to overcome. It nearly always goes in the direction of over-using the “I” rather than over-using the “me,” perhaps in an effort to sound more erudite and avoid the old “Him and me went to the store” (which you also hear on occasion).
And yes, sadly, I must say that I even heard it in Mitt Romney’s convention speech, in an otherwise moving passage:
But if you ask Ann and I what we’d give to break up just one more fight between the boys, or wake up in the morning and
discover a pile of kids asleep in a room — well every mom and dad knows the answer to that.
The thing about it is that the rule is actually so very simple. Just remove the other pronoun or name and the word “and,” and say the sentence without those things. I can’t imagine Romney ever saying “But if you ask I…”:
I know that language changes all the time. You might even say it evolves. But this change just doesn’t seem right to me.
Or to I.
[NOTE: And if this entry follows the rules of the usual nitpicky grammar post, I will have made at least one inadvertent grammar or spelling error in it.]
[ADDENDUM: The very worst example of this error I've ever heard occurred on the TV show "The Bachelorette," (and yes, I sometimes watch it), when a contestant said something like, "Her and I's relationship has gone to another level."
Now, that's creative.]