Happy Valentine’s Day!
To all my ever-loving readers:
Did you receive anything? Did you give those you love anything? Do you consider this day just an excuse for the greeting card, chocolate, and flower industries to coax us in a rather unsubtle way to buy more stuff (not that there’s anything wrong with that)? Do people (mostly women, I’d imagine) get too demanding on this day? Is it a burden rather than a pleasure? Or do you love, love, love it?
I have an odd relationship to Valentine’s Day. It just so happens that, completely through chance and unrelated to the event, I’ve had some hard experiences on that day in the past. So I have no particular affection for it for historical reasons. Plus, as those who read here regularly probably know, for the last couple of decades I’ve been unable to eat chocolate without getting a migraine. Waahh! Woe is me!
But there used to be a wonderful Valentine’s Day candy that I’d look forward to all year: smallish sugar-coated red pectin hearts that were bright in color, cherry in flavor, and achingly, meltingly soft although with a slight toothsome resistance at the same time.
In short, they were perfect.
About four years ago the local store where I used to get them stopped stocking them. The owner said they were now unobtainable. I searched online but could find none. At the time, I knew who made them, but I’ve since forgotten. Negligent of me, but perhaps it’s really for the best. Why torment myself with searching for what was and can never be again?
Then again, does anyone know where they might be found?
HAPPY V day!!! (this is whats going on at work, the medical school university, etc)
http://www.vday.org/home
Dr. Mukwege, Godfather of V-Men, Puts Out a Call to Men
http://www.vday.org/node/2965
The Vagina Monologues: A Wake Up Call for Men?
http://www.vday.org/v-men/okun
Will men ever “get it?” That’s the thought that came to mind when the male owner of an Amherst, Massachusetts karate center spearheaded a drive in the local and national media to try and prevent female students from presenting The Vagina Monologues at Amherst Regional High School the night before Valentine’s Day.
Those supporting both women’s empowerment and men redefining masculinity owe the play’s local critic, Larry Kelley, a thank you for illuminating the need to bring more men into this crucial conversation. Certainly, Eve Ensler’s play is about women’s lives. But it’s also about men waking up to women’s reality.
no, not happy valentines day, that was for when we were deep in the oppressive society of men. its no longer Valentines day, the women decided to change it. if not, they certainly didn’t try to stop it. that and the vagina monologues is a winner for this holiday. (nothing like gay lesbian drugged pederasty to make a holiday liberating)
Eh … I’m not a fan – never been the kind of girl who got valentines. Or maybe just the guys I fell for weren’t the valentine-thoughtful type anyway.
Now, my daughter is working today as a delivery driver for Edible Arrangements, and V-day and Mothers Day are their two super-super busiest days of the year. She updated me an hour ago – she positively hates it, now. She and the other delivery drivers have the same harried expressions – they’ve been working full out since Monday. Her next serious boyfriend will not have to buy her anything on V-Day, since she’s probably going to throw it at him…
Note to guys, don’t ask your women to go out and buy a valentine they like and then offer to sign it. They think that shows callousness rather than practicality.
Sorry, I can’t help you with regard to the sugar hearts. Nowadays I’m always momentarily astounded when the exact product I want doesn’t instantly pop up after a Google search. Just shows how reliant we’ve become on the internet. I remember back in the early 90s how getting hold of something as commonplace as a magazine back issue or an old book could involve several phone calls or fruitless shopping trips.
Neo: try “hometownfavorites.com”
they are a retro/nostalgia online candy,etc. website.
Happy Valentines Day.
Not sure if you mean these:
http://www.candywarehouse.com/occasions/wedding-candy/products/nonpareils-pectin-cherry-hearts-5lb-bag/
My experience — Flowers and candy and presents aren’t nearly as well received as a card with a few heartfelt words for your Valentine.
And those flower tents they put up around the parking lots of grocery stores would do even better business if they put in wide screen TVs tuned to ESPN.
Neo: if you scroll down their home page, they have a special Valentine candy section. Good Luck!
KLSmith: thanks for the try, but this is not a retro-type candy. I used to buy it in the 80s and 90s, but it was a new product and a specialty one. They don’t have anything like it there.
southpaw: thanks for your efforts. Yes, I have found those before, but they are not right, although they’re the closest thing I’ve ever found because they are pectin. I have actually thought of ordering them before but I’ve not done so because those nonpareil coating thingees are nothing like what I’m looking for. They are too crunchy. I’d have to laboriously dissect them off.
Maybe next year, though, I’ll give it a try.
see my post as to where the men have gone to see the depth and width of the dissonance on this… in fact, you want to really have some wacko fun? go read the explanatory reasons why men are not men any more from the women telling women about how men think (as they can think for us too).
everything from they are immature, to they have seen how capable women are, and have given up trying… to being broken, and so on.
no… when so many women do this and normalize this kind of hate as a way to stop hate, the guys are not THAT anti life that insane…
Where Have the Good Men Gone? – WSJ.com – Kay S. Hymowitz
Too many men in their 20s live in a kind of extended adolescence–and women are sick of dealing with them
[i thought they were beating them up and raping them?]
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704409004576146321725889448.html
and if you didnt believe me on that idea of men quitting cause they gave up in the face of womens awseomness…
Where Have All the Real Men Gone? By Erin Ann McBride
http://ldsmag.com/article/1/11571
Are the women partially to blame? Did the women’s liberation movement, and ascent to equality, somehow make the men stop trying to carry the load? If so, that isn’t really the women’s fault. It’s like saying my neighbor mows his yard so well, that I decided to stop mowing mine because it isn’t as good as his. Stupid logic. And yet? It might be true.
Where have all the good men gone?
BADASSCHICK Magazine
Underlying Problem
The underlying problem with The Dirty Seven is a kind of selfishness that makes them incapable of giving your needs fair play. They lack empathy (the ability to put themselves in your shoes). They are looking for a relationship like you, but they are not capable of sustaining one.
http://www.badasschick.com/where-have-all-the-good-men-gone/
[I am wondering who really has lack of empathy here… the men or the women who have exterminated themselves by hating their own sons, husbands, fathers, and so on?]
and ya gotta love the naive blind church people
Where Have the Men Gone?
by David Murrow
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0002510.cfm
There are only two possible explanations for the lack of men in church — either A) men are more sinful than women, or B) there’s something about the church that’s driving men away. The more I study men and church, the more I’m convinced “B” is the more likely cause.
yeah… the women who screwed around and now are ready to settle down, go church shopping… i attend church and i see them come and go… scoping out to find a good guy after picking up her STD kit…(i have also attended other churches in the neighborhood when the music was nice and i was walking by, and you see the shoppers there.
the men are trying to avoid the women!!!
there is no reason to play a game in which every move is a loser, and the odds of winning (if you apply Bayes theorem to the different things) is astronomical… not to mention you can pick a winner, she can meet a friend and suddenly toxic sally is in your house screaming about all men are part of the rape society
Where Have All the Real Men Gone?
http://www.outsidebozeman.com/lifestyle/just-chicks/where-have-all-real-men-gone
The Anchoress home URL…
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/afewgrownmen/2012/11/where-have-all-the-good-men-gone/
While American men have been searching for new identities for a number of years only recently has the male gender sunk beneath the weight of its own self-centeredness, and our culture is happy to help them sink.
yes. its the men who are self centered… not the women who dress now like a cross between peter pan and a rum bottle pirate complete with riding boots, and no horse… which i think is waht they are complaining about.. no one to ride…
understand.. that when the people say this, there is only one thing left to do… leave… your not going to convince them your not self centered, and your certainly not going to convince a woman she is self centered.. and so freaking self centered few men want to be with them any more. the older women dont know this so much. (except maybe cougars, who are poaching the guys the young girls need, so it will get worse for women).
Valentines Feature: Where Have The Good Men Gone?
By Girls Just Wanna Have Guns
Not so long ago, the average American man in his 20s had achieved most of the milestones of adulthood: a high-school diploma, financial independence, marriage and children. Today, most men in their 20s hang out in a novel sort of limbo, a hybrid state of semi-hormonal adolescence and responsible self-reliance. This “pre-adulthood” has much to recommend it, especially for the college-educated. But it’s time to state what has become obvious to legions of frustrated young women: It doesn’t bring out the best in men.
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“We are sick of hooking up with guys,” writes the comedian Julie Klausner, author of a touchingly funny 2010 book, “I Don’t Care About Your Band: What I Learned from Indie Rockers, Trust Funders, Pornographers, Felons, Faux-Sensitive Hipsters and Other Guys I’ve Dated.” What Ms. Klausner means by “guys” is males who are not boys or men but something in between
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What also makes pre-adulthood something new is its radical reversal of the sexual hierarchy. Among pre-adults, women are the first sex. They graduate from college in greater numbers (among Americans ages 25 to 34, 34% of women now have a bachelor’s degree but just 27% of men), and they have higher GPAs. As most professors tell it, they also have more confidence and drive. These strengths carry women through their 20s, when they are more likely than men to be in…
[oh the drive i would have if the strong professors moved my competition off campus, denied them money, worked to drug them, and then funded me at a discount… (Though, despite all that drive, and so on, we are collapsing. so i suspect the productivity is a social story, not reality… otherwise, we would not be collapsing with so many super human workers taking up the task… eh?]
And from a SANE Woman..
or at least one that is noticing the pile of crap they put on her head…
Where Have the Good Men Gone? Or, Here We Go Again
http://artofmanliness.com/trunk/750/where-have-the-good-men-gone-or-here-we-go-again/
Personally, I’m getting tired of these “What’s wrong with men?” articles and books. I’ve lost count how many of them I’ve read over the past five years. I seriously have a bookshelf full of tomes on the subject. At first they were somewhat interesting—at least the place of men in society was being discussed and studied. But I feel like it’s just become an endless piling on. My biggest beef is that the authors typically don’t offer any solutions to the problem. Instead, they just pity these hapless men or laugh at them, but never try to help. Mostly because the solution—that men need to revive some of the lost virtues of manliness might seem sexist.
A MANS ANSWER TO THE QUESTION:
Where have all the men gone?
http://www.avoiceformen.com/men/where-have-all-the-men-gone/
besides i am tired of the every so often lecture from some NYU feminist as to why i wanted to marry my wife to abuse her… or attack my wife… which my wife does NOT understand as she is not from wacko woman land… (here)
neo…
when the argument is the weight of evidence
trimming it down, deletes the argument
preponderance is a term you should understand
imagine court without preponderance and what the outcome would be if it was not allowed?
for those that dont know
preponderance: a superiority or excess in number or quantity
cutting 100 down to 4… destroys the point…
meanwhile if i said… this is going on all over the world in place of valentines day, in hundreds of places…
its easy to say.. no.. its not… its just a little thing.
a person can conveniently point out that there was only one more post after your edit, and so there is no preponderance.
so. tell me how to get round this when the moderator tends to help the side she claims to oppose…
ie… even if accidently, they dont mind, they love your help… if subconciously, they take that too… if intentionally, and your missives after are ingenious, they like it too.
bout the only thing they dont like, is being PROVEN to be a certain way,or what they claim is small is large, etc.
but they are sure, that whether consciously, or unconsciously, the women will help them against the men.
meanwhile..
you think that teaching all the young women, and minimizing how serious this is after 15 years of no opposition is ok?
want to know how they were unopposed for 15 years and were able to normalize this.
every one deleted or cut down the posts for 15 years that would have assembled it into an unarguable document. and as long as that was done, they claim we have no proof and we cant influence women who claim we are exaggerating.
so… while you cut down the information.
they win
you can explain any reason wny you do it.
but the bottom line is THEY WIN
and they know you better than you do as they have the confidence to know they will win, as they have watched how their team acts naturally, and so they work from that.
Happy LAST Valentines Day!!!
because the only one protesting its death is me…
while the ostriches are pretending nothing is wrong
pretending if they dont study it, read it, oppose it, and just keep pretending its a fringe thing that has no traction, nothing stops it. which is why 15 years on, its part of how obama was elected..
the more you let them go do this, the more he has a wedge to open his mouth up to use to mobilize them
and if you don’t know this is an INTERNATIONAL MOVEMENT of INTERNATIONAL COMMUNISM… then maybe you also dont know who they are going to line up to be shot once they get far enough, as none of them have ever taken full control without doing that.
Obamacare: A Beehive of Stings You Weren’t Expecting
Seniors: After the election, seniors are learning that all the promises of “no cutbacks” in their medical care were false.
The Senior Sting is especially ugly. One 80-year-old patient told me his heart medicine was no longer covered, “because I am too old now.”
Preventive services and cancer screenings for the older patients, such as prostate and breast cancer checks, are being cut to pay for “free” birth control pills. As of 2012, hospitals are paid more to provide fewer surgeries. Popular and lower cost Medicare Advantage plans are being cut back or eliminated.
want to bet that they will tell you that because they are listening to these people that attend this movement and all the other stuff too…
the real clincher is when socialists, complaining about privilege make it illegal to use your own money to pay for the care insurance wont!!!!!!!! as that is privelege…
so be prepared that these same people have already agreed through all this unopposed stuff, that you have to go when your old, and you wont be allowed (soon) to do anythinb but stop your meds and let nature take its course..
after all… isnt it the feminists at the forefront of abortion, eugenics, euthanasia, v-day, and on and on and on?
for some reason i find that women have a big problem thinking strategically and being able to see that their intent is irrelevent as only the outcome or reality of the thing matters. ie. it doesnt matter why you cut it down… except to you… and you want me to acept intents. but the truth is, if your intent was to hit a button to open a door, and you launch a nuclear weapon (yes, silly example), the outcome is still a nuclear holocaust, no matter what your intent was… so the outcome of cutting down things, is you help the people wanting to hide those things and wanting to keep people in a fog. intent dont matter, and excuses are worthless.
the men are getting to the point from what i can tell, to give up upon a real battle… ie. nothing to defend..
i guess it doesn’t matter…
the people who are so vociferous will be the first in line for a camp when this goes bad…
ie. me, you, and others… there is enough hate evidence in this blog given ideology and behavior to damn most who write here to a bad end IF things don’t turn around…
they wont say your past doesn’t count…
they will call it uyp and use it against you…
i can show you examples from history…
maybe you don’t realize that is the outcome of opposing them and losing?
Neo, I have a similar issue with St. Patrick’s day–something very significant and sad that happened over 25 years ago. Even though I don’t think about it very often, just because it happened on 3/17, a dear little dark cloud goes through my mind when I see all that green. It doesn’t spoil the day or make me depressed, but it’s there, and I just don’t get into the (mostly faux-Irish) hullaballoo.
Toy
I was a flop with chicks, I’d been that way since ’56.
But on a V-day some years back, I went off to train for a different job with the thought that maybe this was significant. Met my first girl-friend, and some years later, my wife.
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And so say we all.
My sweetheart and I exchanged handmade cards this morning. We are going to a tapas restaurant tonight for a leisurely meal and a glass of champagne. Afterwards, we’re going to watch The Princess Bride. A perfect Valentine’s Day.
Best wishes to all at neo-neocon, my you have your heart’s desire (provided you do not harm others in the process).
Neo – maybe you can fuse the little nurbles with a hair dryer…
good luck
I love St. Valentine’s Day because where I grew up, it wasn’t about your SUPER-SPECIAL-SOMEONE ™. You made cards for your parents, your siblings, etc. It wasn’t until I went off to college that I heard about poor college students spending their beer money on gifts (or breaking up with their sweeties right before St. Valentine’s Day to avoid same).
Then again, I was raised in a very traditional culture. Unless you were engaged, your boyfriend shouldn’t buy you jewelry. And under no circumstances should you accept a gift of clothes from him, let alone underwear. 🙂
Sorry about the candy, Neo. Any more clues? What size were they, major manufacturer or small company? Were they similar to a jelly bean?
My sister used to love fig bars you make from one of the boxed bake-a-cake companies. Discontinued now.
‘Severe epidemic’ of sexually-transmitted diseases is sweeping the nation, warns CDC on Valentine’s Day
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2278457/CDC-warns-Valentines-Day-eve-severe-epidemic-sexually-transmitted-diseases-sweeping-nation.html
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control released data Wednesday revealing that 20 million new sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are diagnosed each year nationwide, costing some $16 billion in taxpayer funds.
Half of the 20 million new infections affect people ages 15 to 24 – who only make up a quarter of the population,l according to the statistics.
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The number of new infections in the country has been growing over the last couple decades, leading one CDC researcher to declare that the U.S. is facing an ‘ongoing, severe STI epidemic.’
There were 15 million new infections reported in 1996 and 18.9 million reported in 2000.
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and just to be clear where its from…
Kindergarten Sex Games: New York School Parents Of Five-Year-Olds Outraged
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/06/parents-of-five-year-olds_n_1257807.html
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and dont forget… they are discussing how to teach kindergarden children…
Sex Week at University of Chicago
http://www.campusreform.org/blog/?ID=4615
The prestigious University of Chicago is in the midst of hosting a comprehensive sex week that includes controversial events such as a course on sex education for kids, a play entitled “Genitalia the Musical,” and “Anal 101.”
According to the event’s official webpage, “Sex Ed for Kids” will be run by the Secular Alliance from 5-6pm Sunday and will offer college students advice on how to “teach kids” about sex and “learn yourself.”
“How do we talk about sex and its related concepts of choice, gender, and desire to our kindergarteners?” asks the event’s description posted on sexweekuchicago.com.
KLSmith: they were small, maybe a half-inch or so in length and width. The were like any sort of jelly candy with sugar on it—for example, Chuckles or gumdrops. They looked a lot like this photo. It isn’t so much what they looked like that made the difference—there are some heart-shaped gumdrops in my local grocery store, for example, but they are not pectin-based and don’t really taste much like them.
Neo, I think I recall eating a candy like that, and the closest thing I can think of available currently is Decoria’s jelly lollipops. They have the pectin based consistency and the light sugar coating, instead of hard nonpariels. http://decoriaconf.co.kr/product/animal-lollipops.html
As far as Valentine’s Day goes, Mr. Random Thoughts is and has always been the sentimental one in our family. Even after three decades I am still surprised by his ability to sneak flowers, chocolates and cards onto the kitchen table late at night, to be discovered when I get up in the morning. I don’t ask for nor expect anything (not even dinner out as the last thing I want to do is dine out on a day when every decent restaurant is full). My “gift” to him is a well prepared meal. Tonight it will be a grilled salmon filet with risotto and greens. I suspect he’d say he was quite happy with that.
Random thoughts: Thanks—there are indeed a number of pectin-based treats such as the ones you linked to. Whole Foods has a nice version, too—a sort of fruit square that comes in different colors.
But at the risk of sounding whiny, I have to say that those hearts were very singular and very special. They had an extremely intense cherry flavor and a softness I’ve never seen equaled. And it’s not just their absence making the heart grow fonder—each year when I’d buy them and first taste them, I’d be amazed that they tasted even better than my memory!
For some reason they were only available around Valentine’s Day season.
Being a cheapskate and romantic, I sent my wife this link. Click in confidence. I used tinyurl to hide the surprise/.
Neo: now I want some, too. If you ever remember the name, let us know.
These?
http://www.candyfavorites.com/jelly-hearts-cherry
UpNights: thanks for your research, but although those look fine, they aren’t pectin. There are quite a few products like that available, but not pectin.
Pectin is what makes the difference. It gives them the special softness.